This piece below came from a Cuban male friend. For the sake of this post, lets call him Orlando.
Amigos, I realize that among foreigners there's a new myth gaining force, but the interesting thing about it is that it is a myth based on a true fact. It is the myth of the Cuban man who doesn't care about her partner and is bad in bed.
All countries of the world are FULL of men who do not give a damn about women, so why is this emphasis on the Cuban case? I mean, every 12 minutes a woman is raped in the USA.
All over the world, there are men who are good in bed and who are not. What foreigners fail to recognize is that a large amount of Cuban men who have sex with foreign women do it motivated for money. Do not expect a good performance in bed from a man who doesn't really want YOU.
On the other hand, there's a lot of women (Cubans and foreigners) who have married Cuban men and would not change them for anything in this world. Do not be blind to that reality. Many women from around the world have found in Cuban men what their local counterparts haven't been able to give them. That is also a fact.
If you say most Cuban men don't care, I am telling you, open up your eyes and don't be so unfair. They may be macho when compared to a Canadian guy, but they do care when they see you as a person, not as cash. Cuban people in general are caring people, they are warm and men do care about women a lot. Do not expect a man to care for you and give it all in bed when you are a synonym of CA$H.
............do not dwell in the fantasy that Cuban men are actually bad in bed. I am really sorry for all those foreign women who go there expecting a young man to work wonders on a 70 year old. That won't work anywhere in this world.
And to dispel the new myth one more time, use your logic. I have never in my entire lifetime heard a Cuban woman saying she doesn't like Cuban men because they are bad in bed, and that is why they prefer foreigners. I mean, if Cuban men are that bad, why not go for something better?
There are lots of relationships between Cubans and foreigners where both are happy in bed, but I've never heard about sexual satisfaction as an incentive for Cuban women to pursue foreigners. There are also a lot of foreign women resented for not having found the stereotype they were searching for.
I read it somewhere, in an interview with a musician who had moved to Cuba, who said that all transactions between Cubans and foreigners were economic, or had an economic aspect to them. A statement which I tend to agree with.
I would also add that I think all 'intimate' relationships between men and women anywhere in the world have an economic aspect to them as well.